What You Should Know About Sex
40 Things You Should Know About Sex by Age 40
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1. He doesn't care if you've shaved
2. Wide beats long every time
If you care at all about penis size (and studies show that women are far more into how penises look than how they're hung), you know that width matters more than length.
3. All the girls are doing it
Masturbating, that is. In a 2004 survey by AARP, nearly half the women between the ages of 45 and 49 said they had taken matters into their own hands in the previous six months. And many women have used more than just their hands. In a 2009 survey by the University of Indiana, more than half the respondents had used a vibrator at least once, and nearly one in five had used one in the previous month.
4. He likes the cuddling part, too...
and not just because he's half comatose when you snuggle up after sex. During lovemaking, both men and women release the chemical oxytocin -- the so-called "cuddle hormone" that helps new moms bond with their babies. So what does than mean for men? Oxytocin boosts their desire for intimacy, along with their feelings of trust, according to a 2008 study by the University of Zurich. And in this case, what's good for the gander is good for the goose.
5. You really can tell a guy's size by his hands
The longer a man's ring finger, the longer his penis, a study by University of Liverpool shows. Both are determined by the amount of testosterone he was exposed to in the womb. If his ring finger is the same size or smaller than his index finger, he received lower levels of testosterone. If it's bigger…watch out!
6. It's worth a try
Variety is the spice of life…and of sex. Whether you do it in a hammock or an airplane; on the kitchen floor or in the shower; dressed in leather or in lace, if it's new, it's improved.
7. Porn is hot
The idea that women take longer to get aroused just isn't true. Show us some skin and we're off and running. In a 2007 study, women who watched porn got turned on as quickly as men did. Using thermal imaging technology, researchers at McGill University in Montreal found that while watching porn, men became fully aroused in 664.6 seconds (11 minutes), compared to women, who took 743 seconds (12 minutes).
8. Say Ohh instead of Ohm
Craving the calm you get from yoga? Go for an orgasm instead. You feel relaxed after climaxing because you were practically brain-dead while you were doing it. Using scans to measure brain activity, researchers from the Netherlands found that women do not experience emotions such as fear, anxiety and stress during orgasm. When you're in the throes, there's no worrying about the kids' report cards, the weekly grocery list or the pile of bills on your desk. But it's a chicken and egg situation: The only way to reach orgasm is to clear your head of that stuff to begin with.
9. Faking it: pointless. Showing him what you like: brilliant.
10. It's better with your socks on
If your sex life isn't hot, it may be because you're cold. Research from the Netherlands shows that couples with cold feet had a harder time reaching orgasm -- only 50 percent made it. When couples put on socks, the number jumped to 80 percent.
11. Honesty: Not always the best policy
So you've thought about cheating -- maybe even stolen a kiss or snuck out for coffee. Should you confess to make up for it? No way. Coming clean only inflicts pain on your partner and damages his sense of trust. If you want to protect him and keep your relationship going, swallow your guilt and keep your mouth shut.
12. Love is in the air...
as long as your man doesn't shower after his workout. The musky smell of male sweat can be a real turn-on for women. In a 2007 study from the University of California at Berkeley, the scent of a man boosted women's sexual arousal, mood, heart rate, blood pressure and breathing rate.
Next: What You Should Know About Fantasies, Money and Kissing
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LAGUNACANYON52 09:50:40 AM Sep 13 2009
I prefer4 hairy bushes, they are a natural turn on. And a vagina should not smell like strawberries, it should smell like a vagina( not stinky but that natural animal smell that turns men on)
Joeyav48 06:37:10 AM Sep 13 2009
Where do you people get this crap?? THe bottom line is people have different needs desires, smells, touch. Its all in what makes you happy. Having been with enough of the oposite sex to know the difference. Variety is truly the best advise if one wants to be truly happy. Today there is way to much temptation to be married or to stay with the same person. People get bored with the same person and someone gets hurt, its not worth having your heart pulled out through your ass. Stay single love yourself the most and have fun!! I dont trust anyone anymore we've become too selfish. Morals have gone to hell, sorry thats my opinion.
Flydarrring97 06:00:00 AM Sep 13 2009
whatever happened to the concept that the size of a vagina might count in this equation ? come on ladies, your stuff isn't always the best of things to look at or smell....two sides to every story here
JMAK118 05:44:29 AM Sep 13 2009
trim it, but i love a little to pull...pain/pleasure thing. sox? there goes toe sucking. guys, when she starts begging you to stop, 'to intense'. there's a level beyond stop, they can only go, we can't. don't stop, this is where she loses all mind control, forgets you, levitates, launches and orbits. the benefits? she'll be trembling, in another world for hours...don't leave her alone and lead another charge about every hour. just for her, even if you are spent, she isn't. be gentle, any touch, be very gentle, every inch of her body will be very very sensitive and just as receptive.
Jeanneweanne 05:08:56 AM Sep 13 2009
You're right- size isn't much of an issue uhnder most circumstances. But when it's only 4 inches erect- it makes a difference! I disagree though that it's girls/women who make such an issue about penis size (bigger being better) it's the MEN who have the hang ups over how they're hung! They can't help it though- I wish they'd realize that there IS such thing as 'too much of a good thing' and it's more important that they are hard rather than huge. Work with whatcha got guys and don't worry about it being too small. (unless you're only 4 inches I mean)
MayssoJ 04:59:00 AM Sep 13 2009
Its always interesting to read different researches in this area . I was surprise to know about how women get exited of a man sweet, but I belive men do to my boyfriend used to tell me call me after your done with the gym before your shower its when I love to have sex .
swt1980720 04:58:33 AM Sep 13 2009
sizes dont matter what matters is iif the guy knows how to use it anyways women always say sizes matter but i dont agree with it as long as a guy can make me happy then thats good.. SIZE DONT EVEN MATTER ANYMORE WOMEN NEED TO GROW UP
Jeanneweanne 04:33:53 AM Sep 13 2009
Oops! I forgot to mention that the size of a man's ring finger being an indicator of the size of his penis has got to be a fluke of some kind. I dated a guy who was 6'6" once with HUGE hands - used to play pro football even- but his thingy was AT BEST 4 inches rock hard. No, he never took steroids.
Jeanneweanne 04:28:31 AM Sep 13 2009
I will agree to most of these- generally speaking with the exception of the don't shower after working out stuff. If you don't agree- stick your face down near a man's sweaty crotch and see if you change your mind. ha, ha. And as far as socks during sex goes... yeah, you don't want cold feet but given that the study was done in The Netherlands- which is notoriously cold anyway, I'm surprised that they take off ANYTHING clothing-wise for sex! Brrr...
