13 Kinds of Sex Every Couple Should Have
How To Spice Up Your Sex Life
by Allison Bond and Ashley Neglia
Every couple needs to change up their sexual routine every now and again so it doesn't become just that -- a routine. Sexual experimentation is key for keeping a long-term relationship fresh, fun and fulfilling. Opening up about your desires can also bring you and your partner closer together. "Experimenting with each other requires a willingness to be vulnerable, which improves intimacy," says Mort Fertel, a Baltimore marriage counselor and creator of the Marriage Fitness Program.
What types of sex might you and your partner be missing out on? Click the gallery below to learn what every couple should try.
13 Kinds Of Sex Every Couple Should Have
Holiday Sex
If there's a three-day weekend associated with any holiday, you better believe that couples are getting busy between the sheets. Valentine's Day, Memorial Day, Fourth of July and especially New Year's Eve see a spike in sexual activity and conception in the United States, according to biorhythm researchers. No wonder. Who doesn't want to start the New Year off right?
13 Kinds Of Sex Every Couple Should Have
Make-Up Sex
A passionate argument can lead to some just-as-passionate action between the sheets. Fighting causes dopamine and adrenaline levels to rise, making you and your partner excitable in more ways than one. Every couple faces occasional conflict, and sex after a disagreement can be a great way to get your relationship back on track. "When you're upset with each other, you need to be able to get over it and move on," says Fertel. "Sex changes the momentum after an argument."
13 Kinds Of Sex Every Couple Should Have
Vacation Sex
The two of you may be tucked away in a private room, but the deed can still feel thrillingly public. And those crisp, clean sheets are just begging to be rumpled. Best of all, a vacation can be a great opportunity to re-connect with your partner sexually. "One of the benefits of a vacation should be to renew your sexual intimacy," Fertel says. If you usually plan every minute of a trip, make sure you schedule time for sex. For example, plan to stay at the hotel until mid-morning or to come right back to your room after dinner for a relaxing night together.
13 Kinds Of Sex Every Couple Should Have
Animalistic Sex
A sense of urgency can turn up the heat in a major way. Being aggressive can be fun and unexpected -- romance with a twist. After all, it's an element of mystery that defines romance. "It's when you don't quite know what to expect," Fertel says. So if you're in the mood, ripping each other's clothes off and skimping on foreplay could be an exciting change of pace.
13 Kinds Of Sex Every Couple Should Have
Comfort Sex
Like meatloaf and mashed potatoes, sometimes you just need something that's simple, familiar and satisfying. It's one way to provide love and support when you or your partner has had a rough day or is feeling down. This is when it might be time to use your favorite stand-by position, one that you and your partner always enjoy. "When it comes to the climax, sometimes it needs to be in a certain way, and that's OK," says Fertel.
13 Kinds Of Sex Every Couple Should Have
Hope-We-Don't-Get-Caught Sex
If you're at a boring party or family gathering, add a little spice to the evening by sneaking away to the spare bedroom. The possibility of getting caught adds a new level of excitement to your sex life and can even give you a reason to look forward to spending the holidays with the in-laws.
13 Kinds Of Sex Every Couple Should Have
Fulfill-Your-Fantasy Sex
Everyone has sexual fantasies, and as long as both you and your partner feel comfortable acting them out, there's no reason you shouldn't try them. "We should be pursuing each other's fantasies, assuming they're appropriate," says Fertel. For example, if your partner has always dreamed of doing the deed on a boat, why not rent one and spend a romantic night at sea? All aboard!
13 Kinds Of Sex Every Couple Should Have
Quickie Sex
If you're pressed for time, don't write off sex just yet -- this is when "the quickie" comes in handy. Just make sure it's something both parties want; an unfulfilling experience for either one of you can foster resentment and, over time, weaken the relationship. When someone says yes to sex when she really means no, "she's not doing him a favor; she's making a mistake," Fertel says. "It will turn her off to him sexually long-term."
13 Kinds Of Sex Every Couple Should Have
Romantic, Sensual Sex
Taking the time to savor sex without rushing through it can be luxurious and fulfilling on many levels. Connecting with your partner by taking it slow means you get to enjoy every moment of being together and lets you take advantage of the emotional connection that makes sex better. Whether it takes candles, music or some bubbly, building the mood can provide a major boost between the sheets.
13 Kinds Of Sex Every Couple Should Have
All-Over-the-House Sex
Switching up your lovemaking location can be a great way to inject some spontaneity into a relationship, which in turn can make your partner feel even more desirable. "Spontaneity is beautiful. It's fun and exciting," says Fertel. "Too often people get into a routine where they have sex at the same time, at the same place." If you and your partner are doing the laundry together, for example, pulling him or her close for a quick rendezvous can be surprising and refreshing. It's good, clean fun -- no detergent required!
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peaceherenow 02:02:37 PM Nov 04 2009
Any sex that involves breaking a dish over the other one's head should send both members into therapy. Try this guy. http://www.mindbodylink.com
kctiger1962 01:09:02 AM Nov 03 2009
I think men and women should respect each other and be more polite and considerate to each other. But remember it's hard to teach old dogs new tricks. If your in a second or third marriage then you must be more than 3 times 7 and so you have habits that you have created over several years, and sometimes it's hard change bad habits, but if you see that it bothers your partner then you should try to change but also your partner should be understanding of you also. But remember that you can't change people, if you think you can, think again. If you think that your just marring the person and not their family, think again, you marry the family also, if you have problems with your partners family before you get married and you see their family on a regular bases, then think it over because it doesn't get better after you get married.
Ukhti3h 12:01:00 AM Sep 13 2009
@ Echo9X---> If and when you marry, you guys should do it whenever the hell the mood hits, is what I say! You asked how often married couples have sex and, as a married woman myself, I'll answer by saying not enough! Unfortunately, sex for many married couples really does end up like this article implies...a routine. I don't know about anyone else, but for me routine spells monotany, and although there are some things I think I should fit a monotonous scheme of things, i.e. a JOB, paying bills, caring for the kids, et cet., my sex life isn't one that I can handle being like that. I say when sex ends up another item on the grocery list, something has definitely gone awry! LOL
Ech09x 11:19:01 PM Sep 12 2009
ok, im a 17 year old virgin thinging about entering a serious relationship. if me and my spouse got married, just how much should i want to have sex? how much is normal? how much is too much? how many times do married couples even have sex per week? like maybe once or twice a week?
CrystalSenshi 08:29:15 PM Sep 09 2009
Kitaz you ever think your wife might be having mental health issues? Disinterest in personal hygiene is an indicator of depression. But then again being married to an insensitive ass like yourself, I'd be borderline suicidal myself. You don't deserve anyone with that attitude.
Mrsdecor 12:47:13 AM Aug 30 2009
Hey,Kitaz1: Men aren't the only ones who would like a little love in their marriage. I , like you, have been married over 20 yrs, and my husband doesn't care about sex at all. No, I'm not fat, and I 'm told I'm attractive. I'm about ready to call it a day, and call the lawyers....
J62171 01:22:23 PM Aug 23 2009
I was ok, lets read this article because this might be interesting and give us new odeas, BORING IS WHAT IT WAS. DANG what a let down.
JayBeach8 09:12:36 AM Aug 23 2009
Ah, now I see why **** *** is not mentioned. I can't get it to print out here.Well, it has to do with the buttocks.
JayBeach8 09:11:05 AM Aug 23 2009
So, they have these ideas that are reprinted in Cosmo every month. A new location for sex? Well, yeah. But not the rec room or the classroom closet--I was thinking more of **** ***. Why doesn't anyone mention that?
JlouisL 02:46:36 AM Aug 08 2009
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