Habits of Highly Unattractive Women
Man Repellants
From Make Every Man Want You by Marie Forleo
There are ways of behaving that drive men crazy. But there are also ways that drive them absolutely bonkers. Most (though not all) are a subset of one attraction-killing misconception: The belief that a relationship will somehow save or complete you. Find out more
Neediness: The ultimate man repellant
When is the last you heard a man say, "Hey, I met this really hot needy check last night!"? Never is right. Relentlessly saying, "I miss you," throwing (not so) silent temper tantrums when you don't have his full attention and feeling an insatiable desire for his approval are all classic needy behaviors. Neediness puts undue pressure on a man to the point where he feels responsible for your happiness. When you render yourself powerless, that's anything but irresistible.
Incessant Insecurity
"Do I look fat?" "Is she prettier than me?" Those questions drive men nuts and feeds your ego illusion that you're somehow deficient and "less than." It's an illusion because it's false. Yes, everyone feels insecurity and self-doubt from time to time, but the key to being irresistible is not to indulge or entertain these thoughts. Here's a tip: If you think you look fat in a particular outfit, go through your wardrobe and find an outfit that showcases your assets.
Clueless Communicator
Most of us don't really listen. What we do is judge whether we like or dislike what a man is saying to us, decide whether we agree or disagree with what he's saying, or determine whether we know it already. True listening happens when you drop those internal conversations and simply hear what a man is saying to you. When you truly listen, you become instantly attractive.
Sloppy and Unkempt Appearance
Yes, men will love you for your caring, affectionate ways, your wit and devilish charm, but come on! Give them a chance to experience all your fabulousness by wrapping it in an attractive package. How look impacts how you feel. And if you're looking dumping, chances are you're feeling dumpy, and men are feeling your dumpiness, too. You don't have to obsess or strive for some unrealistic ideal of perfection. But pay attention and take care of yourself.
Hardened and Bitter Attitude
Women like this usually take on a certain thin, stern look. They appear stony and tired. It's as though their girlish spirit and soft, womanly charm have been sucked out with a straw. In case you haven't guessed, this is a result of repressed anger. Let it out. Let it go. And lighten up! Rather than playing Medea or the victim, take a new role: The heroine and leading lady in your life.
Catty and Critical
Many women find it challenging to acknowledge and compliment other irresistible women, especially in the presence of their man. Insecure women will criticize other women's clothing, shoes, hair, etc. This backfires by casting you in a bad light. You're seen as insecure and jealous. Here's the other thing. By bad-mouthing attractive women, you unconsciously program yourself not to become one.
Boring in Bed
You don't have to install a stripper pole in your bedroom or get into hardcore role play (although both could be fun), but you need to be honest about your sexuality and whether or not you hold back in between the sheets. A subset of boring sex is doing it just to get it over with. What could be more unattractive. Practice being naughty and initiate sex much more frequently. Last but not least, tell him, show him, guide him to pleasuring you. He will love you for it.
Break "The Rules"
Dating rules are designed out of fear and scarcity. They exist to keep your partner off-balance so he has to keep wondering about your and put his attention on you. This is not true love; it's a game of manipulation. Never call a man. Never make the first move. Don't talk too much. There are times when they are absolutely the thing to do. You can break every rule in the book when you're in touch with your own irresistibility.
Trash Your Perfect Man List
Using a perfect man checklist makes it nearly impossible to attract the right man for you. Your ideas of perfect are narrow and limiting. They come from what you already know, which means they are derived from the past -- not the present and certainly not the future. What if someone beyond your wildest dreams is just around the corner waiting for you if you are open enough to see him?
Recent Comments
Lisafw1965 08:01:28 PM Aug 28 2008
Hmmmm...let's see. Cause if the female that wrote this told the truth, she would be without the man she has or unable to find a man,that knew she wrote this. We want affection. We know we have to make the sex thing work for the guys, but we need emotional bonding first. You give us what we need and make us feel good, we'll give and give and give in return. Problem? Most females have been taught to fake, yell and scream, make the guy think that's all we need. I have my best screaming sessions alone! You want a female to respond as you want? Date her, yes you have an attraction, but mostly because she said stuff that made you feel like you could hang around. Put it off for a little time,make sure,jack at home if needed(we know you are male).If you think it might work,forget everything you saw on porn. That is NOT what real women want. Some,will give that stuff later,after getting ready for it and knowing it's worth it. Show her what you are thinking as well as telling her. This is NOT yo
Srcksaint 07:28:12 PM Aug 28 2008
Why is there never an article about habits of unattractive men? Like, let Lisa do it. To have a guy stand up and say all that? Why do women have to be the ones to try so hard? Yep,I am a guy! Why can the "writers" not do stuff from the females point of view? Why do THEY have to try so much for us? Why should we not try as hard or harder? I get why they feel the way they do! We go on porn sites and expect our female counter parts to have ana* with no prep, get choked and not want it and tell them how THEY are messed up for not doing it. I want to know the TRUTH! What do women want? Do not say what you think MALES want! What do you guys want from us? I want to know and I bet lots of other guys do too! Women, are the mothers of us all. Put them up high and worship them. Respect them and give them what makes them happy. I bet in turn, you WILL get what you want in return!!
Thorn 111 07:26:43 PM Aug 28 2008
Oh yeah and I think its funny that all these bitter women keep posting about the awful man who must've written this article. Perhaps you should examine the author's name a little closer?
Thorn 111 07:25:04 PM Aug 28 2008
This list well encompasses the reasons why I just called off a five year relationship. Sure girls we understand you're not perfect and every now and then you'll fall into one of these categories. Thats okay. Its when one becomes a habit and you move on to the next. When you become the image of this list no matter what else you have going for you being in the relationship is just too much.Things like "get a life and keep it!" Thats not misogynistic! Its the truth.
Lisafw1 06:16:04 PM Aug 28 2008
Wait....I know this....a way to NOT be a man magnet! Say: I love you(most are too self centered anymore to here that.....wait a second,never mind,they are seeing a therapist too).Say:Did you look(does not matter at what;they have every right and you females DO NOT)I need you(nope,do not go there)it only matters,what they want and need.I feel I(NOPE, you can not feel...only what he and his mommy say HE feels) I have been married for 27 YEARS! LONG AND VERY PAINFUL! They seem to be all the same! Make a life for you,get what you want and if you need a child and can't find a momma boy,need to be a man though....GET A SPERM DONER! Thanks to my crap head,27 years of lying, ZERO!!! I may never find someone I trust, to love me and treat me as an equal,or as well as his mom(this one treated his mom almost as bad as me) AGAIN! RUN GIRLS RUN!!! EDUCATION,JOB AND YOUR OWN HAPPINESS ARE THE ANSWERS!!!
BBINLA 04:23:29 PM Aug 28 2008
I don't see what the problem is with this list. In my opinion, most of the suggestions listed should apply to ALL relationships...not just male/female. I mean, c'mon, who wants to be around someone who complains or is judgmental or has a bunch of baggage that they feel compelled to dump on you or is unkempt and doesn't give a damn about their appearance? Frankly, I don't want that kind of relationship with my man or anyone else in my life. It's bad enough that I have to WORK with people who are negative, bitter, and self absorbed.I think you ladies are wee bit defensive and can't see the forest for the trees. Take your male bashing blinders off and look at the list from the perspective of a simple human being...no gender boundaries...and you may view it differently.
chickiebos 04:08:58 PM Aug 28 2008
Damn. He basically says in one of these that women need to stop being narrowminded and looking for the perfect man, but it seems like this list leads to being the perfect woman. There's too much on the list--it's like he sat down and just noted every single fault about every woman in the world and say "Don't be like this." No one can live up to all of this. There are going to be times when women just want to lay there in bed because they didn't want to have sex to begin with, and times when every woman bashes a man or laughs at men jokes. Besides, how is there even a such thing as boring sex to men? That and "bad sex" are among the dumbest things I've ever heard coming from men, unless the woman is biting his ding dong off or something.
Ltosh7179 03:57:00 PM Aug 28 2008
click on the link to "7 Habits of Highly Unattractive Women"...and suddenly the headline becomes "Be a Man Magnet" and "Make Every Man Want You"...well **** you very much AOL. Women are BEAUTIFUL and majestic and we don't need men to dictate to us our attractiveness based on how we treat them. Life is not about women's popularity among men or how loud we moan in bed to make them feel more macho about their tiny penises and for them to tell all their "boys" about how many random women they ****** (and gave HPV to with their dirty ass dicks) that day. C'mon ladies! Lets get empowered and feel good about OURSELVES for once!!
Jcbrod1 02:35:40 PM Aug 28 2008
gee ..men go after me..i do not chase them..and we change..for NO ONE
lynsmakdwn 02:31:54 PM Aug 28 2008
I find it hilarious how many bitter and vapid women, incapable of seeing past their own noses, fill the comments every time an article like this appears on the news blurbs. Have your grrrl power all you want, but then please be kind enough to not insult my masculinity and/or sexuality next time I refuse a date with you due to the fact you practice the personality flaws listed above to a "T". Just because an idea isn't completely centered around blowing sunshine up a "womyn's" *** doesn't make it misogynistic. Get over yourselves for a split second and you might just be shocked at the actual truth behind the stereotypes.
