Friends You Should Break Up With

Joewarrenh 07:14:01 PM Apr 08 2009

Doesn't everyone fit into one of these categories. Sheesh.

madworld711 03:35:12 PM Apr 08 2009

I guess we should all be recluses and avoid all of our friends. This is the most ridiculous piece of "friend" advice i have ever heard.Better get started ditching everyone I know... considering we all have imperfections.

JimSchuman 01:12:53 PM Apr 06 2009

I had to add my two cents after reading this because it is always a topic close to me. When you are married, and you and your wife have friends that have some of these traits, it is often easier to overlook them because you see the friend only as a couple and what is lacking can be compensated for by your spouse. For example, we have a friend who always talks about herself and seems to be disinterested in anything to do with our life. We continue to see her because she lost her husband and we feel that we can listen to each other talk about ourselves anytime -- when we are with her it can be her turn. It is still annoying, but not enough so that we want to end the relationship.Another comment is that friendship is a very mild commitment -- you are not married and you don't have to work with each other. The standards you set for your friends can probably be lower if you are thinking about spinning someone off. An example might be a friend I have who always orders the same food as

TheBellTows 12:34:46 PM Apr 06 2009

Yep I agree with the person that said none of us are perfect. I found it interesting that the author of this article said to keep the blood sucker in your life if you can handle their neediness. So according to this article we shouldn't have any friends because of course we all know there is something wrong with all of us. This is coming from a therapist??????? Whatever happened to accepting people for what they are???????

LStJames1 10:41:28 AM Apr 06 2009

So where do you find the "perfect" friend and the assumption is that you are perfect and deserve perfection. Someone who is abusive and who does drugs is in the same category as someone is like a "therapist?" Not all bad traits are created equal. What is friendship? Just hanging out, being superficial and not talking about problems and helping someone or being helped? Oh wait, that is what men think is friendship. No wonder we no longer have support systems, loneliness, suicide, and people found dead in their house after many months without a clue, etc.

DouglasWPhilp 10:32:45 AM Apr 06 2009

If you were to do this, no one would have friends.... Everyone you or I know falls into one or more of the categories.

Foreverly4Him 09:00:07 AM Apr 06 2009

I think this list is pretty accurate, to be honest. You certainly don't need to end the friendship unless you feel like it is neccesary. The resolutions provided here work pretty well. I could most certainly think of some of my friends who don't fit into any of these catagories, because I am capable of seeing the good in them, and that over powers the bad. Really, if you think someone fits into this list, then you should start looking for something good in them. If you want to keep them around, then do it. If not, tell them it's done. That's all you can do.

NJDevils86 07:27:36 AM Apr 06 2009

That leaves us with no friends!! The only "friend" that is left is a perfect one and I have no idea where to find one. As I recall, no one is perfect. I have neither been a perfect friend nor had one.

FerretMaster1239 09:55:10 PM Jan 22 2009

friends are over rated... Dump all friends, become an AoL article writer and then shoot yourself in the face for sucking at life.. KKTY

carcrazy714 07:13:38 PM Jan 20 2009

I might be cynical but a true friend is very rare. It is almost human nature to envy a "friend's" good fortune. I find this true no matter how much the person may or may not have. I'm not saying that I'm a perfect friend. I have done things I am ashamed of but I'm basically the nice one who gets shit on. I'm always the one who remembers birthdays and Xmas. Ask me how many cards I get in return. All through school I was worried about the other guy. I was afraid to leave anybody out. Nobody cared about my feelings. "No good deed goes unpunished" and "Nobody can take advantage of you without your permission" must have been said about me. Sorry to whine but I have given it a lot of thought as to why people dump on me when I'm a good friend. I really try to be objective and look at my faults and what I may do to turn people off. I can honestly say my greatest fault is being too nice. I would appreciate comments.